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Postpartum OCD

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  After giving birth, you must adjust to an entirely new life and cope with a lot of related stress. Pregnancy and the postpartum period can be a trigger for OCD. Symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder that develop in the postpartum period typically focus on the baby and her wellbeing, and can include the following types of obsessions and compulsions: Extreme worry that your baby could fall, choke, be dropped or die suddenly Fear of being alone with your baby Intrusive thoughts of something terrible happening to your baby An extreme need to keep your baby's clothes and accessories tidy and symmetrical Checking behaviors, such as constantly looking in on your baby while she's sleeping Obsessively praying to protect your baby. These thoughts are intrusive and make caring for your child very difficult. You don’t have the intention to harm your child, but you’re very much afraid that you will do so accidentally. Fortunately, postpartum OCD is very treatable. Treatment may inclu

Single Parenting - How to empower yourself!

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  Raising kids alone is not easy. You have no one to support or share your dilemmas and concerns. However let this not overwhelm you. Some tips to empower you to do what you want to. 1. Don't feel Guilty - You may feel guilty for the things you cannot provide or the time you may spend with your kids. For your good, try to focus on all the things to accomplish for the day and also show the love, comfort and attention to your little ones. Seek help as needed. 2. Take care of yourself - Include physical activity in your daily routine, eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep. Arrange time to do activities you enjoy alone or with friends. Give yourself a "timeout" by arranging for child to be with relatives or family friends least a few hours a week. 3. Lean on others - Work out a schedule with other parents in school or classes. Call on loved ones, friends and neighbors for help. 4. Plan and handle finances - Taking care of the family on a single income or being dependent

Single-parenting-positives

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  Often the negative effects of single parent households are quite apparent; economic troubles and abandonment related trust issues. But, there are also positive effects on raising a child. 1. Strong bonding - Spending quality time with your little one creates a unique bond which will be stronger than the one if you were a nuclear parent. It goes well in the case of custodial parents (one who has sole physical custody of the child) and also non-custodial parents who play a significant role in their child’s lives. 2. Community attachments - 'It takes a village to raise a child!' Children raised by a single parent often grow up within a community of supporters. Extended family and friends are likely to take part in the lives of the children. 3. More mature, more responsible kids - Single parents have to work harder, and their children have to collaborate with them for the good of the family. The children also learn how to deal with disappointments and turbulent emotions. They ar

Single-parenting-concerns

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  Single-parent families are more likely to experience financial problems because they only have one earner. These problems used to be compounded due to the patriarchal structure of society, lower status of females, bias in educating girls, lack of access to training facilities, and a sex segregated labour market where there are not only fewer jobs for women but those that are available are mostly low paid, part time, and insecure. Present day society has overcome many of these concerns, but still many are prevalent depending on social strata, caste, religion and other sociodemographic variables. Single parenting mothers are often perceived negatively by society and have little or no social life after family disintegration. The attitude towards female divorcees and widows in India has historically been negative and unfavourable towards their remarriage. There may be intense sorrow (and loneliness) when child envies pals who live with both parents. Building new relationships is difficul

Single-parenting-reasons

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  Single-parent families as those in which there is a single parent, father or mother, raising his or her own children. A single-parent family may get established because of the permanent absence of a parent from home due to death, divorce, separation, desertion, even unwed motherhood, or because of temporary absence as, for instance, due to migration for employment, and imprisonment for long periods of time. In India, the death of a parent is the most likely cause of single-parent family, followed by divorce and separation. Some of the more recent causes leading to single paretning include adoption by those who are unmarried. Some women choose to be single parents via surrogacy. Although relatively small, growing numbers of women in developed countries, especially those who are professional and older, are becoming single mothers by choice. Concerned about their reproductive clock ticking and the lack of a suitable partner, some of those single women have turned to sperm donors in ord

Parenting in 90's

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The 90s - With liberalization kicking in with Rao and Singh partnership, life turned around quite dramatically in the 90s. Parents had more options for better jobs and more time for the family as well. TV serials, especially Ramayana and later Mahabharata helped the family be together. Mobile phones and social media were thankfully absent, allowing for proper conversations and relationships to develop. Life was a playground and you could have fun no matter whether you were staying inside the house or going outdoors. Moreover, for the first time, children could opt for a variety of western games like basketball, football, badminton, volleyball etc. Nevertheless, cricket was the staple diet. Children had loads of time to play and had adorable ways to fight with friends. Katti Batti, standing in lines during assemblies, getting scolded for mischiefs in the assembly were common. Playing pranks with fake insects, especially on teachers still elicit bouts of laughters. Fairs during festival

Parenting in 80's

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  In the 80s, many Indians pulled themselves out of the uncertainty of the earlier times and were living stable lives. In fact, the rise of middle class is evident in the significant developments in the intellectual sphere. The 80s marked the beginning of the rise of nuclear families in India. The average family had a father, mother, two or three children, and lots of love. Both the children and the parents were kind of heaving a sigh of relief. They no longer had to bear the pressure of joint families, but they were somehow missing them too. The parents were moral, but didn’t usually go out of the way to teach their kids a lesson. Last but not the least, within limits of decency, they allowed their kids to choose the clothes they wanted to wear and the food they wanted to eat. Father had a job that was usually good enough to take care of the household. Some of the mothers were working too, but they did so only in less time-consuming jobs like those of teachers. All in all, the parents
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Permissive parents tend to be very loving, yet provide few guidelines and rules. These parents do not expect mature behavior from their children and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. Their motto is often simply that "kids will be kids." While they are usually warm and loving, they make little or no attempt to control or discipline their kids. Because there are few rules, expectations, and demands, children raised by permissive parents tend to struggle with self-regulation and self-control. Characteristics of Permissive parents: 1. Are usually very nurturing and loving towards their kids 2. Ask their children's opinions on major decisions 3. Emphasize their children's freedom rather than responsibility 4. Have few rules or standards of behavior, any rules they do have are inconsistent 5. May use bribery such as toys, gifts, and food as a means to get a child to behave 6. Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent 7. Provide little in the